Love is Patient

Love is Patient

1 Corinthians 13:4-8New International Version (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.


I know this may not be the case for many families out there, but we try our best to go to church at least once a month.

Personally, I have always had a very, “this is my relationship with God and it is my business, and no-one else’s” kind of attitude.

And for those that have known me “pre” Nathan, they know that for a very long time, I took that relationship… lightly…

While that has absolutely changed in my adult life and in my marriage, that is not what this post is about.

I am not here to preach to you about how you should go to church… Your relationship with God (or lack there-of) is your business, and no-one else’s.

What this post is about, is patience and love.

This past Sunday, we did make it to church, and as usual our incredible Pastor hit the nail on the head.

I guess I should start at the beginning.

Sunday morning rolls around, and as is the current trend these days, Saturday night was a pretty sleepless event for Roxy and myself. So when she finally fell back to sleep around 6:30am, I took the opportunity to get up and try and get myself ready for church.

(If any of you are moms out there, you know, that “getting ready” to go somewhere has taken on an entirely new meaning since you had children, and I was hoping for a pre-baby get ready sesh.)

Well, obviously the second I got up, so did everyone else because that is kinda the way it goes.

(Now I don’t want to bash my husband here, but for the sake of this post, let’s just say, his attention was diverted from the children and my hopes and dreams of getting ready solo were dashed against the proverbial rocks haha!!)

So at this point, I got the kids and myself dressed and was still trying desperately to put a dang braid in my hair when my darling significant other, father of my children, love of my life… Got a little impatient… WITH ME!!

Apparently, I was taking a little too long to get out of the house and we were going to be late.

Insert eye roll and exasperated sigh here.

We got into a little spat about the division of duties when attempting to leave the house and went on our way.

Needless to say, we arrived to church in a less than pious mood.

And then the service opens with,

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Nathan grabbed my hand, whispered an I’m sorry, gave a sympathetic smile and we moved on.

But Pastor Perry went on to explain how his temperament and patience do not always go hand in hand.

He explained that when he was feeling impatient, as he tends to do, he has challenged himself to stop and simply whisper:

“Love is patient.”

love is patient

And now I am going to pass on this incredible piece of advice to all of you.

Because I can tell you what, while my husband may not have patience with me… These days my lack of sleep is causing me to have less patience with my entire family.

And for me that is not ok.

So when I feel my patience waining, I stop and simply say, “Love is patient.”

When Nathan pushes one too many buttons.

Or Reef pees on the floor.

If Roxy screams for what feels like an eternity… And somehow my favorite cake stand gets broken…

“Love is Patient.”

This seemingly minuscule act allows me the few seconds that I need to reevaluate my attitude and my next move.

It gives me a momentary breather to literally check myself and remember who I am. Who I am talking to, and who I love.

It literally GIVES me the time to be more patient. And in turn LOVE my family better.

So I challenge anyone out there who is having any issue with patience, for any reason.. give it a try.

If you feel your blood boiling. When your temperature starts to rise.

Simply stop and say to yourself, “Love is patient”.

Try it for just a week and see how it affects you and the relationships you are in.

I can almost guarantee it will help… But if it doesn’t, and you feel yourself losing your patience with me… Stop and say, “Love is patient” 😉

(As always I would love to hear from you guys! If you have any tips for helping to be more patient or if you want to share if this advice helped you at all please let me know in the comments below!)

Aloha!

Mal

xoxo

 



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  • Today is my husband and my 11 month anniversary. It gives me butterflies just thinking about him. I am over the moon in love with this man, and every day I try to be the best that I can for him, so as to help him become a better person himself. Ugh. I just want to go and hug and kiss him right now – haha!

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